I have had several powerful comments to the question, “What keeps you from being your best and living on purpose?” posed from my blog post Less to Need and More to Be. I invite you to share in these personal life changing ah-ha moments. This is parents raising themselves.
Candace began the process of eliminating the un-useful in her home and had a very cathartic experience. After struggling for some time with her purpose in life, one morning after a major purge, she woke up with her mission as clear as the morning light. She said, “I had to clear the clutter to see my mission.” I would like to add that the clutter that Candace is referring to was in closets, drawers, and storage. That is how powerfully heavy the baggage is. Even when it is beyond closed doors, you feel the negative energy of it.
Rob commented, “I thought my job was doing it for me.” Wow, that is brutally honest. There are many beautiful serving careers (military, doctors, nurses, teachers, etc.) that one can “hide” in. Now, please do not misread this: You may be living your mission through your career – that’s awesomeness! But I bet your mission is not to be a teacher or doctor – your purpose is bigger than the roles you serve it through.
Through your comments and my musings, I will offer some common interferences that get in the way of being our best and living on purpose. I will refer to these fears as the Fear Matrix.
The 3 P’s: Performing, Pleasing, & Perfecting, usually involves Producing. This is you hustling for your worthiness. I do not want my children to know me as a professional hustler, and I do not want to role model these behaviors.
The 3 C’s: Competing, Comparing, & Conforming, usually involves Consuming. This is you shaming yourself that you are less than enough. This is trying to look just like everyone else, but just a little bigger and better. You will always fall short in comparison to someone. This lifestyle results in stressed parents and over-scheduled children. This is an exhausting way to live.
The 3 A’s: Achieving, Accomplishing, & Accumulating, usually involves Anxiety. This is you waking up already feeling deficient. Not enough sleep, not enough exercise, not enough money, not enough time, not enough … this is the “more is still not enough” way of thinking. All these A’s won’t add values and worth to your life.
This is where we are…over-functioning and under-joying. This is what has brought you to My Child’s Gardener. This is our journey and we are standing at the bridge. Join me as we discover how to build the bridge to close the gap between what we are doing and who we want to be. It is a new way to think, a new paradigm and perspective. I have coined it A Life of Plenty – it is our awareness (consciousness) of how good things “really” are. It is an attitude of abundance and a lifestyle of simplicity. Fear less and love more is the path to a purposeful life.
“To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion; to be worthy, not respectable, and wealthy, not rich; to listen to stars and birds, babes and sages, with open heart; to study hard; to think quietly, act frankly, talk gently, await occasions, hurry never; in a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious, grow up through the common – this is my symphony.” – William Emery Channing
Cultivating Courage (to walk across the bridge),