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Less to Need and More to Be – Part II

I am using a comment from the tribe to springboard more depth into yesterday’s blog post, Conscious Parenting | The Call to Raise Yourself.

I have been very happy to see your blog and watch it’s growth. I have sent several people to it over the last couple of weeks. I think you have really found something that suits you and that you have a gift for.  I wanted to share a bit of my experience and thoughts about Maslow’s work.  I find his work compelling but I feel it leaves out a lot of what makes us human.  1.  The needs seem to make sense on the surface but at closer look they seem to defy experience. For instance, the life of Frankl. He had no money, no security, no sex and yet he still found realization. There are numerous similar stories where people “actualize” without the “basic” needs met. In fact, many actualize because of this lack of needs met: Jesus, Gandhi, Native American vision quest, etc.  2.  Maslow’s needs are described in a very western value system. His order does not hold up when you describe it to people from many indigenous cultures or cultures that are more socialistic vs. individualistic.  3.  When you take away the cultural differences, I believe there is still a challenge with this model as a functional paradigm: it describes limitation. For example: if you don’t have this “basic” need, you can’t possibly be effective at acquiring that “higher” need.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective.  I agree with you, and also find Maslow’s Hierarchy to be limiting.  I believe another way to conceptualize the bigger picture of what we are both trying to identify is:  What gets in the way of our joy, meaning, and significance?  You know, our purpose in life? 

The connection I am drawing between simplified living and conscious parenting is that what we are crediting as needs, and getting in the way of self-actualization, are not needs at all.  And the examples of Gandhi and Jesus are a beautiful and perfect example.  Thank you.   

My riches consist, not in the extent of my possessions, but in the fewness of my wants.” ~ J. Brotherton

All the best parenting tools are going to fall short unless you clear out the weeds first.  All the how-to’s are not going to work unless you get the other things out of the way.  What are the weeds that are blocking you from blooming, and the potential of your garden?

If you want to love with your whole heart, what’s the source of your half-heartedness? 

You already know how-to.  What keeps you from it?

Rephrase:  Conscious parenting calls us to action to raise our self {past our basic needs} to our highest self.  Less is more – less to need and more to be.    Simplifying life, so I can consciously parent.    

Cultivating the courage to be me & helping others lead a fear-less life too,


♣ Feel free to comment on “what keeps you from being your best and living on purpose?”  Remember, you have to raise yourself so you can raise your children.

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