Shift happens if we begin with the end in mind.
Asking the right questions reveals what is motivating our behaviors and supports us to make the choices that are in our highest and best interest. The way to know the right choice is to begin with the end in mind. Because if we don’t know where we are going, it doesn’t much matter how we get there.
Ask the Right Question to Get the Right Answer:
- Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep me stuck in the past? Every choice matters.
- Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me short-term gratification?
- Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?
- Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?
- Will this choice add to my life force or will it rob me of my energy?
- Will I use this situation as a catalyst to grow and evolve or will I use it to beat myself up?
- Does this choice empower me or does it disempower me?
- Is this an act of self-love or is it an act of self-sabotage?
- Is this an act of faith or is it an act of fear?
- Am I choosing from my divinity or am I choosing from my humanity?
As we get better at asking the Right Questions, we can offer them to our children. The best parenting advice I can offer to you is to make better choices in your life and model this process for your children. This in turn develops their executive function ~ to be a leader in their own right and of their own lives.
An extraordinary person is an ordinary person who makes extraordinary choices.
The best practices of extraordinary people:
- Hold bigger visions for themselves than the ones dictated by their underlying commitments.
- Allow their lives to be used to serve the world around them.
- Make choices that are consistent with the highest expression of themselves.
- Commit to excellence, make a contribution, don’t settle, set an example for others, and take the high road.
It is only by questioning our automatic responses that we will break through the trance of
denial and change routes. Ultimately, we are the only ones who can change the direction of our lives.
Making the shift is about waking up from autopilot.
When we make conscious choices, we take into consideration the effect that our actions will have on our lives as a whole. Conversely, when we are on autopilot, we allow our unconsciousness to make decisions for us based on the programming and patterns of our past.
“Destination unknown” is not an itinerary that supports us jumping out of bed every day and becoming the greatest possible expression of ourselves. We need a vision map to guide us – a mission and a purpose.
Whether we are working on our career, our health, our relationships, staying sober, being a better parent, we must keep our vision present. The key is to begin with end in mind and consult our map every day before we begin our journey.
If we really want to “change” our lives, we must make choices congruent with our vision.
We each get to choose for ourselves: a life by default or a life by design? A life by design begins with the end in mind. And this can make all the difference between an ordinary and an extraordinary life.
More contemplation on the 10 Questions.